Another Reason Why I/You Can't Depend on Anyone Else But Yourself When.....

It comes to Money....
1. You can gamble your life away but don't gamble someone elses. By gamble, I mean, mess with, f*ck with, burn to shambles, etc.
2. Always have your own bank account.....for that rainy day. Not cuz you are looking forward to it or expecting it, but because, SH*T Happens. And when that happens, it pours, and it isn't always a quick sprinkle. Sometimes it rains hard. For long periods of time. And the only person that can change that.....is you.
3. Men don't change.
4. Don't ever be JUST a housewife unless your husband already supplemented your savings so you can live off of it for the rest of your life.
5. I will never be just a housewife without comfortable cheddar in my personal account. I will never be just a housewife without comfortable fromage in my personal account. I will never be just a housewife without comfortable queso in my personal account....and it's not for Gold-Digging purposes but it's because you can't be a housewife and think youre husband is going to keep bringing in cheddar for you and the kids for the rest of your life. Girl has got to take care of herself, incase, her husband falls down and she has to make it happen. Cuz she can.
6. Have your spare tire. Even the best cars, i.e. Mercedes, Bentleys, Beemers have one.

It comes to Love...
1. Fall hard. As long as you still have $$$$ in your personal account.
2. Uhh.. I'm not the expert so I'll just pull the brakes here. Keep posted for when pigs fly. I'll post in this section then. =P He'll show up. I swear, he will show! Keepin' the faith!

It comes to Happiness...
1. It's your own responsibility. Don't depend on someone else to do your own simple but hardwork.
2. You make what you want happen.
3. Be happy by yourself and let that other half be that extra guacamole you always think about getting but are too cheap to fork out the extra 75 cents for...let HIM/HER be simply luxurious. The bacon to your hamburger.

The rest below is taken from an e-mail I received from Mell today...it's words from the Queen Herself, Oprah, and it speaks the truth and the first FWD'd e-mail I've actually FWD'D/SPAMMED to my near and dear friends and family in a very long time! Please READ IT. BELIEVE IT. LIVE IT. PREACH IT. LOVE IT!!!!

Monday, October 31, 2005



My mom sent this to me and I thought it was worth a post. Here's what Oprah said about men:

*If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Jess: If the guy reallllly wanted to talk to you, ask you out, he would've called already and you wouldn't be sitting here reading this. In the meantime, go live your life. Like my good friend SK says, "Men don't value what they don't work for." You're preaching to the choir, sisterrrr!

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better.

*Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. Jess: If you're not happy and satisfied alone, he's only gonna fool you into thinking your life is soooooo good..when really, it's towwwwwwww'd up. Recognizzzze!

*If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then no, you can't "be friends". A friend would NOT mistreat a friend.

Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

*The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Jess: Peace out if he isn't bring 110%. You're better off not having spent the time, energy, money, etc. Cut your losses and move on.

*Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Jess:Somehow, it worked for Droppin' Babies Britney, but who'd want to be in her shoes anyways?!?!

*Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior.

Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

*All men are NOT dogs. Jess: some are just clearly not attracted to you, are gay, are attracted to you but you aren't to them, have not appeared yet, have never been exposed to great women or had a great mother that would've taught them why women are wonderful and why they should be treated well. Vice versa though - All women are NOT b*tches. A lot of them are though.

*You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. Jess: Maybe YOU need to read this once again! Hello? One more time. Did you hear that? Yeah. One more time, YOU! You = too many people

*You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Jess: Think of the extra guacamole. The burrito tastes great without it, but even better with it once in a while!

*Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

*Never move into his mother's house. Jess: You are doomed if you decide to go move into his Mama's house.

Never co-sign for a man.

*Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Jess: If he doesn't give you what you need, you're going to b*tch about it later on so save yourself the energy. Let him know what you want and make sure he brings it. But vice versa too!

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

*You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is a two way street. Jess: If he's not bending, you GOTS TO KICK HIM TO THE CURB.

But go out and love regardless...just make sure you're dumping $ into your own account bi-weekly the very least!

Keepin' The Faith for All of Us....
J