Weekend Update...
This week has had quite a few cool events that are also part of SoY*summer of yes*, RTB and my initial "beginning of the year goals." Let's recap, past and present:
1. Went to see Jack's Mannequin in concert on Tuesday at Slim's in SF as part of the "I want to go see more concerts this year RTB". Now who is JM you ask? Well I had no idea til crazeeee Mell and Mao and my old coworkers @ Santa Monica Laura and April told me all about it. Their undying love for Andrew, the lead singer who recently has been battling cancer - and he's still smokin' cute. Most it's MAO and Laura. Mao is an awesome groupie. Her and Hannah drove up to the Bay on Monday night to see 2 JM concerts in a row. Then they're driving to Utah to catch a concert, then back to LA. THEN..they'll go to Austin, TX and then ATL. Crazy. For the love of JM!!! I give her props. She is living, ALMOST FAMOUS. Cheers!
-The concert was awesome and the company was great. Rolled with Mell, Vicky, Vicky's man Steve, their friend Whitney and Dean. We kicked off the evening at Primo Patio on Townsend in SF for some, I wanna say Carribean food? But of course they ran out of what I wanted *bermuda burrito...fresh red snapper and bay shrimp with chopped tomato and cilantro*, AND the 2nd thing I wanted *the burger*. Who runs out of burgers, granted it was game day but BURGERS!?! At a Carribean joint!? Anyways, the best part of dinner were the drinks - the BULI BULI.. beer with sugar and lime. SOOOO GOOOD...I want to recreate it for a summer bbq or cocktail party. Go here for the $7.50 pitcher of BULI BULI. Otherwise everything else is great too. Our waitress seems a little loopie. Like she was smokin' a joint or crack in the waiters station or something. But moving on.....
-We arrived a little before JM went on so us shortie asians (vicky and i, since mell doesn't count) scoped out for some quality space. Too bad the tall people and the big hair'd people and the "big" peeps are somehow always infront of you. Steve even had to lift Vicky up about 6 times so she could get a peek of the stage. heehee. It was cute!
-Now I didn't know JM songs til about 4 weeks ago when Mell was generous enough to burn me their album amongst other new albums. She is my mp3 crack dealer. Adddddddicted. So after finally listening to the songs, I'm a new proud fan of Jack's Mannequin!!!
2. Finally met my boy neighbor. Our dear friend Lance comes in so handy, always. You may know him from UCLA, from Omegas, from the dancefloor as he's done his signature "karate-chop" move. Lance is one of Wei's good friends from college and Alb's pbros. Anyways, the only reason we're living here @ Marlin Cove is because he suggested it because his friend aka boy neighbor lives here. After numerous emails and IM conversations about best things around this town, how this apartments works and after moving into this lovely pad, boy neighbor and I finally met to hang out on Thursday. It was a very cool meet-n-greet so to speak. Through this meet-n-greet I was able to discover some neighborhood hotspots and introduce him to the lovely world of Hangar One Vodka. =) So all my friends who are coming to town soon to visit, boy, do I have some little places to take you!
*Thai food @ Nipa-pon (decent, not out-of-this-world, but the Panang Curry sure was yummy)
*STINGER - aweeeesome superswank dark dive bar with SF flair, free street parking, and 5 minutes from my crib. They serve Hangar One....Kaffir Lime..Yum-o. Have great music playing in the back, not a packed house but the perfect amount of people. And from what I hear/read, the drinks won't cost you an arm and a leg.
*Tapioca Express - I told the Korean boy neighbor that Boba means Boobs in Chinese and he had never heard that before. It was a hoot. For those that aren't already aware of that,
***The consistency of tapioca pearls are somewhere between jell-o and chewing gum. They are the size of a marble. They are also known as the "boba" drink in Western China because it is described as to having the same texture as the female breasts.***
At this TapExpress they have Monday through Sunday "deals". We went on Thursday and the prize was .."Order 2 drinks and get Fried Banana". I think they give out cell phone accessories on Fridays or something. This is the one behind Marina Market. It's a teeny bopper crowd filled with San Mateo's neighboring high schools' finest -- since they obviously can't get into STINGER, thankfully!
3. Spent more time with my parents this week then I have in a few years? Granted parents drive you up the wall. They love to put pressure and stress on you when you clearly cannot handle anymore (at least none of the kind that they give you), but at the end of the day, you just train your mind and your patience to realize, they're just doing what's best for you and suck it up.
Thursday, May 25, 2006
Sunday, May 21, 2006
Another Reason Why I/You Can't Depend on Anyone Else But Yourself When.....
It comes to Money....
1. You can gamble your life away but don't gamble someone elses. By gamble, I mean, mess with, f*ck with, burn to shambles, etc.
2. Always have your own bank account.....for that rainy day. Not cuz you are looking forward to it or expecting it, but because, SH*T Happens. And when that happens, it pours, and it isn't always a quick sprinkle. Sometimes it rains hard. For long periods of time. And the only person that can change that.....is you.
3. Men don't change.
4. Don't ever be JUST a housewife unless your husband already supplemented your savings so you can live off of it for the rest of your life.
5. I will never be just a housewife without comfortable cheddar in my personal account. I will never be just a housewife without comfortable fromage in my personal account. I will never be just a housewife without comfortable queso in my personal account....and it's not for Gold-Digging purposes but it's because you can't be a housewife and think youre husband is going to keep bringing in cheddar for you and the kids for the rest of your life. Girl has got to take care of herself, incase, her husband falls down and she has to make it happen. Cuz she can.
6. Have your spare tire. Even the best cars, i.e. Mercedes, Bentleys, Beemers have one.
It comes to Love...
1. Fall hard. As long as you still have $$$$ in your personal account.
2. Uhh.. I'm not the expert so I'll just pull the brakes here. Keep posted for when pigs fly. I'll post in this section then. =P He'll show up. I swear, he will show! Keepin' the faith!
It comes to Happiness...
1. It's your own responsibility. Don't depend on someone else to do your own simple but hardwork.
2. You make what you want happen.
3. Be happy by yourself and let that other half be that extra guacamole you always think about getting but are too cheap to fork out the extra 75 cents for...let HIM/HER be simply luxurious. The bacon to your hamburger.
The rest below is taken from an e-mail I received from Mell today...it's words from the Queen Herself, Oprah, and it speaks the truth and the first FWD'd e-mail I've actually FWD'D/SPAMMED to my near and dear friends and family in a very long time! Please READ IT. BELIEVE IT. LIVE IT. PREACH IT. LOVE IT!!!!
Monday, October 31, 2005
My mom sent this to me and I thought it was worth a post. Here's what Oprah said about men:
*If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Jess: If the guy reallllly wanted to talk to you, ask you out, he would've called already and you wouldn't be sitting here reading this. In the meantime, go live your life. Like my good friend SK says, "Men don't value what they don't work for." You're preaching to the choir, sisterrrr!
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
*Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. Jess: If you're not happy and satisfied alone, he's only gonna fool you into thinking your life is soooooo good..when really, it's towwwwwwww'd up. Recognizzzze!
*If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then no, you can't "be friends". A friend would NOT mistreat a friend.
Don't settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
*The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Jess: Peace out if he isn't bring 110%. You're better off not having spent the time, energy, money, etc. Cut your losses and move on.
*Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Jess:Somehow, it worked for Droppin' Babies Britney, but who'd want to be in her shoes anyways?!?!
*Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior.
Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
*All men are NOT dogs. Jess: some are just clearly not attracted to you, are gay, are attracted to you but you aren't to them, have not appeared yet, have never been exposed to great women or had a great mother that would've taught them why women are wonderful and why they should be treated well. Vice versa though - All women are NOT b*tches. A lot of them are though.
*You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. Jess: Maybe YOU need to read this once again! Hello? One more time. Did you hear that? Yeah. One more time, YOU! You = too many people
*You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Jess: Think of the extra guacamole. The burrito tastes great without it, but even better with it once in a while!
*Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
*Never move into his mother's house. Jess: You are doomed if you decide to go move into his Mama's house.
Never co-sign for a man.
*Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Jess: If he doesn't give you what you need, you're going to b*tch about it later on so save yourself the energy. Let him know what you want and make sure he brings it. But vice versa too!
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
*You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is a two way street. Jess: If he's not bending, you GOTS TO KICK HIM TO THE CURB.
But go out and love regardless...just make sure you're dumping $ into your own account bi-weekly the very least!
Keepin' The Faith for All of Us....
J
It comes to Money....
1. You can gamble your life away but don't gamble someone elses. By gamble, I mean, mess with, f*ck with, burn to shambles, etc.
2. Always have your own bank account.....for that rainy day. Not cuz you are looking forward to it or expecting it, but because, SH*T Happens. And when that happens, it pours, and it isn't always a quick sprinkle. Sometimes it rains hard. For long periods of time. And the only person that can change that.....is you.
3. Men don't change.
4. Don't ever be JUST a housewife unless your husband already supplemented your savings so you can live off of it for the rest of your life.
5. I will never be just a housewife without comfortable cheddar in my personal account. I will never be just a housewife without comfortable fromage in my personal account. I will never be just a housewife without comfortable queso in my personal account....and it's not for Gold-Digging purposes but it's because you can't be a housewife and think youre husband is going to keep bringing in cheddar for you and the kids for the rest of your life. Girl has got to take care of herself, incase, her husband falls down and she has to make it happen. Cuz she can.
6. Have your spare tire. Even the best cars, i.e. Mercedes, Bentleys, Beemers have one.
It comes to Love...
1. Fall hard. As long as you still have $$$$ in your personal account.
2. Uhh.. I'm not the expert so I'll just pull the brakes here. Keep posted for when pigs fly. I'll post in this section then. =P He'll show up. I swear, he will show! Keepin' the faith!
It comes to Happiness...
1. It's your own responsibility. Don't depend on someone else to do your own simple but hardwork.
2. You make what you want happen.
3. Be happy by yourself and let that other half be that extra guacamole you always think about getting but are too cheap to fork out the extra 75 cents for...let HIM/HER be simply luxurious. The bacon to your hamburger.
The rest below is taken from an e-mail I received from Mell today...it's words from the Queen Herself, Oprah, and it speaks the truth and the first FWD'd e-mail I've actually FWD'D/SPAMMED to my near and dear friends and family in a very long time! Please READ IT. BELIEVE IT. LIVE IT. PREACH IT. LOVE IT!!!!
Monday, October 31, 2005
My mom sent this to me and I thought it was worth a post. Here's what Oprah said about men:
*If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Jess: If the guy reallllly wanted to talk to you, ask you out, he would've called already and you wouldn't be sitting here reading this. In the meantime, go live your life. Like my good friend SK says, "Men don't value what they don't work for." You're preaching to the choir, sisterrrr!
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
*Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. Jess: If you're not happy and satisfied alone, he's only gonna fool you into thinking your life is soooooo good..when really, it's towwwwwwww'd up. Recognizzzze!
*If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then no, you can't "be friends". A friend would NOT mistreat a friend.
Don't settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
*The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Jess: Peace out if he isn't bring 110%. You're better off not having spent the time, energy, money, etc. Cut your losses and move on.
*Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Jess:Somehow, it worked for Droppin' Babies Britney, but who'd want to be in her shoes anyways?!?!
*Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior.
Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
*All men are NOT dogs. Jess: some are just clearly not attracted to you, are gay, are attracted to you but you aren't to them, have not appeared yet, have never been exposed to great women or had a great mother that would've taught them why women are wonderful and why they should be treated well. Vice versa though - All women are NOT b*tches. A lot of them are though.
*You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. Jess: Maybe YOU need to read this once again! Hello? One more time. Did you hear that? Yeah. One more time, YOU! You = too many people
*You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Jess: Think of the extra guacamole. The burrito tastes great without it, but even better with it once in a while!
*Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
*Never move into his mother's house. Jess: You are doomed if you decide to go move into his Mama's house.
Never co-sign for a man.
*Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Jess: If he doesn't give you what you need, you're going to b*tch about it later on so save yourself the energy. Let him know what you want and make sure he brings it. But vice versa too!
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
*You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is a two way street. Jess: If he's not bending, you GOTS TO KICK HIM TO THE CURB.
But go out and love regardless...just make sure you're dumping $ into your own account bi-weekly the very least!
Keepin' The Faith for All of Us....
J
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